A DEPRESSED PARTNER
My partner is depressed. How do I help them?
A question I receive in my inbox at least once a month. A question H must have anxiously asked himself countless times during our time together.
What do you say? What do you do?
Nothing. You love them.
When they turn you away, tell you to leave them alone, curse your name, or throw things at you, (been there) you love them with everything you have within you to remind them that love still exists.
Depression hurts – mentally as well as physically. It reeks of suggested death, and feels like the magnetic pull of a million sweaty palms pulling you into the ground. You want to help? Feed them, bathe them, massage them if they'll let you, but most importantly, LISTEN. Even if you don't know what you'll say, listen to anything and everything they have to say and love them in return.
Clinical or situational, depression is a loveless state. Be the reminder that LOVE is the ONLY language, and the only answer.